Lizzie asks…
Should i Just leave her and walk away for good?
Betrayal……. I’m sure everyone has a story along the line. So here goes mine. tell me what you think and what you think I should do. I’m a 15 year old girl who is on edge of a walk away from something that meant a lot from the past
Over the last year, I met someone. Let’s call her Jen. Jen and I would spend everyday talking
constantly and webcamming from the moment we got home from school to 10 at night. We would hang
everyweekend and go places like the mall. We were always glued to each others side. Soon the whole
school knew that we were each others best friend ( we were in middle school at the
time..now high school ) All my friends got mad at me for being best friends with
her. I was dumb enough to fall in love with our friendship because that’s how close we were. I
never had anyone closer and it felt so good to have a friend that called u their
best friend and actually mean it.
Soon enough, I became part of her family and she became part of mine. Jen’s family loves me. Like
loves loves me. They always want me to come over because thats how much they love me. It was nice
to have two familys that cared about me. UNTIL…..
I hooked Jen up with this guy. I didn’t like her bf at the time and I knew he would treat her
better so they ended up going out. What I didn’t know is that the new bf would be all obsessive
over her and steal her away. My best friend promised we’d be best
friends forever too. YEA OK. Screw that… listen to what i did for her and tell me whatcha think
I make a lot of money. I make 100 bucks a month just by doing chores. I work in the summer and got a lot of money…and I was stupid enough to spend most of it on her…because ” I was in love with our friendship” Anyways, Jen’s mom doesn’t make too much money. They live in a small house. I live in a big house. They don’t have a pool… I have a pool and hot tub. You get the idea…that I have more things. Well I’m not a greedy person. I don’t spend a lot of money on myself. I help others. For instance, if someone at school can’t eat lunch that day because they don’t have enough money I’ll buy them something from my lunch account so they won’t be hungry. I don’t expect anything in return…never really do or did anyways. I grew up in a caring home who helped others. Anyways I bought my best friend a lot because I loved her and I wanted to make my best friend happy. I’ll give u some of the things I bought
260 dollar cellhpone
bellybutton piercing
took her out to eat
took her to the mall and spent 120 dollars just on her
bought her clothes
bought her makeup
brought her braclets
basiclly everything she asked I’d get her.
I was stupid for doing that because now I realize what kind of person she
is.
She’s cold. Why? Because now all she wants is her bf. Her bf is her world. Her and I don’t hang out
because she always makes plans for him and only him. She talks to me differently now and sometimes
ignores me. She doesn’t hug me anymore, or webcamm, or text.
That got me mad at her and her bf. Me and her bf would fight a lot because we would compete for
her. SHe didn’t like that at all. Over time I just gave up.
Should I walk away? I don’t think she would care any much. Yesterday at school she walked right past me and she knew I was there waiting for her. After everything i did for her, from spending money to listening and defending her when she got into fights with people…this is how she repays a best friend that stood by her side every second? WTF
Usedhottubsstore answers:
Alright I’ve been in a similar situation. So what you have to look at is this is high school now, girls think that they “love” their boyfriends and that nothing in the world matters. Is this her first boyfriend? Because that matters… A lot. One mistake you made was buying her stuff, I did that with on of my friends and it got us no where, actually it probably pushed us farther a part because she just looked at me like a money source (the difference between you and me was that I’m was broke and spending everything I had on her and I’m a tad more self indulgent) Anyway all I can suggest is sit down and talking to her, ask her to what happened to your guys friendship and tell her that you feel ignored. If she gets pissy about it leave, just walk away and let her live her own life (no matter how hard that may be) and maybe when she grows up a bit a more you can try being friends again (that’s what happened to me and my friend we didn’t talk for nine months) but if she wants to listen and wants to try and fix this, then work from there. Sorry this answers so long D:
Paul asks…
Did she have a crush on me?
I was best friends with a girl from first grade until the end of the summer (8th grade), when I chose to end it. She’s the athletic tomboy type and looks to go to college on a softball scholarship. I stopped being friends with her because she was a slightly homophobic narcissist who always automatically hated my new friends for no good reason; to the point of making my now best friend brake down crying several times (she mad fun of her for that of course and told her she was OCD because her mom did drugs, which she didn’t.)
In case you’re wondering why I put up with this crap for eight years, I tend to be an understanding person and I figured her behavior was due to the years of abuse she experienced from her crack head mom until her dad (who still doesn’t know she was abused and molested by her mom’s friends) broke off visitation rights.
The reason why I’m posting this here is because I want to know what the deal is with her sexuality. I know I’m not friends with her anymore but this has been killing me for a long time. You see, in 7th grade I decided to tell someone that I was bisexual and that I’d had crushes on girls in the past and I chose to tell her. (Ok… so I didn’t tell her that she was one of them.) She said, “Oh… ok,” and we didn’t talk about it after that for a few days. That weekend I slept over at her grandmother’s house (I’m not allowed to sleep over at her house because her brother is a peeping tom) and things seemed normal… That is until it was bedtime and we were getting ready for bed, when she proceeded to tell me that she was “too hot” and took her shirt off before climbing under the covers. I don’t know about you, but that does not sound like normal behavior from someone who just found out that their best friend is bi. I gave her a weird look, but I tried to act cool and keep as far a distance from her as possible (typically we would sleep in a cuddling/spoon position.) I also turned the lights off and rolled in a direction I wouldn’t have to look at her. The next morning she wanted to go skinny dipping in the hot tub, but I told her that I was afraid the teenage boy next door would see us.
The next week we were sitting alone in the field, and I brought up the bisexual thing as a sort of reminder to her that I might not feel comfortable sharing a bed with her nude self; to whom she replied, “I don’t think you’re bi, you don’t act like one.” I didn’t even bother to argue with her because she’s so stubborn and chose to let the subject remain dormant. Eventually at the end of the year I told her that the bisexual thing was just a phase and I was totally over it, (a big fat lie of course, it was getting even stronger) she gave me her “I told you so” look and I never mentioned it again.
She has been accused by numerous people of being a lesbian, which usually results in her punching someone (she’s floored a twenty year old man before.) I also noticed that during the beginning of the summer when I think she sensed she was going to lose me she started giving me as much jewelry she could get her hands on; I think she might have spent at least three hundred in total; which is an even bigger deal because she pays for her family’s groceries. I felt bad about it and I would give the jewelry back but I think that would hurt her pride even more.
She insists that she is straight and I know she has had a year long relationship with a boy, though she admitted to me afterwards that she stopped liking him after the first two months. Unlike most of the friends I’ve had she doesn’t gush about boys, she just says, “Yea he’s hot” and drops it. Though I know that the answers I get won’t change the fact that I think she’s a bitter and nasty person, I still want to know: Is she a lesbian? Is she bisexual? Did she have a crush on me? Or is she straight? It was probably a good thing that I didn’t dwell on this while we were still friends, because as I think I’ve mentioned before I live in a very homophobic Christian community; her dad being one of the bigger homophobes.
Sorry for the long post…
Ok, so in retrospect this does make me sound like a bit of a basket case…
Usedhottubsstore answers:
Judging by her actions, she might be. Also, due to your homophic Christian community, she might be trying to suppress the feelings. And her bf was just a cover-up, even her reactions to “hot” guys. Now giving jewelry to u is another thing too. It’s kinda suspicious. Sometimes being a homophobe is a facade. In real life, they’re gay so that people won’t find out their real selves. You know what I mean? Or she might be jealous of your other friends and just want you to herself. Some people are like that too.
However, I may be wrong and you are just making a big deal out of it.
Did u tell her why u had to sever the relationship? The best way to answer your questions is to have a real heart-to-heart conversation with her and tell her to be honest. You should be honest too and let her know why u want to break your ties with her, in case u didn’t tell her why yet. And tell her that being bi is not a phase, it’s the real you. That way, she’ll see that you’re honest and maybe she’ll really be honest with you too.
Perhaps, let it cool down for a while. Once the dust has settled, you can rethink your relationship with her. Is your friendship worth keeping? 7-8 years is a long time. You never know, she might change for the better once u really tell her what’s on your mind and in your heart.
Good luck and Peace!
Donna asks…
What do you think of this part in my book?
I am writing a book (just for fun) and I have this part and to me it is kind of powerful but I want some more opinions. And just from reading this you will have no idea of the plot, it is just a really intimate moment between two characters (not sexual but emotional and a connection.) And it is previously mentioned that I (it is written in first person) felt a connection with her. here it is (o and the beginning is so you have a little background):
There was a king sized bed, a 60” flat screen 1080p 3d TV, every gaming system ever made, every
game, every movie ever made (even porn!) and there was a living room area, a kitchen, a full
bathroom and a hot tub! I stared in disbelief, but then something
else caught my eye, a full bar with every drink known to man. I swear I could have lived in that
room for the rest of my life and never need anything ever again.
Kara had to pull me inside because I was starring open mouthed. She went over to the bar and took a
bottle of wine and two glasses. She sat down on the couch with me, poured wine
into our glasses and said tell me about yourself.
I started from the beginning of my life and told her everything I could remember, as I got towards
the part about my early years of school I started drinking more and more wine, trying to repress
the memories.
At that moment I thought that it was weird that I was trying to remember everything but yet I was
trying to drown it with the wine. All the while she looked right in my eyes and I could tell she
really cared about what I was saying and when I got to a bad part I could see her get upset at what
happened and when it was a happy moment her eyes lit up.
For some reason I stopped talking, looked away from her, drank the rest of my wine in the glass and
started crying. I balled my eyes out. I don’t know why but I did, and it felt amazing. I know guys
are not supposed to cry but at that moment anything bad that happened to me, anybody I hated,
everything I held inside, well it just poured out, it was like my soul was purging itself. As if my
body had taken so much abuse that I had to just let it out.
The best part was that Kara held me through this, she just held me and I felt that
if the devil himself walked in the room and tried to take me, Kara would beat the fuck out of him
to protect me.
When I finally stopped, Kara was still there and she looked me in the eyes and I could tell that
she understood me. To me this was an amazing feeling because everyone has that one
person they could talk to, tell anything to and not be judged. I never had that, I
held everything inside and just never gave it a chance to get out whether it be by drinking, having
sex, or punching a punching bag. I finally had that person, she was there for me.
We sat in silence for a long time, it seemed like hours, I turned to her and said “Thank you.”
She smiled and hugged me and said “Any time.”
Trying to get back on track I told her that she should leave so I could read my contract. She
agreed and left. When she was gone I sat in silence for a few more minutes and made a vow to
myself. A vow that I hoped I would never break, it was that I would stop drinking alcohol. Alcohol
had been a big part of my life, but I wanted it gone. In all honesty alcohol let me be alive at
certain times of my life, but now I realized it would soon start taking over and I would become a
shell of a person.
I recovered and I got the contract and got to work.
Again the first paragraph is there for some context (this is in the middle of the book) just so you
could have some background, I really don’t care (the main character gets a really good but risky
job and the first paragraph is part of his bonus)
Here is a revision:
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Usedhottubsstore answers:
The details=awesome
the choice of words=awesome
the plot=awesome
i wish i could write as well as you.
Whoever this character is, he should fall in love with kara because they obviously seem to be soulmates. Her feelings should be mutual.
He should give up the drinking, for her.
Create a love scene between him and her, something like after he asks her to leave he changes his mind i know that you probably wont have that happen, but it is my idea of what they should do.
My only question is what is the contract he was about to sign. Did he sell out his soul for all that wealth?
Please answer mine:
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Sandra asks…
I love my boyfriend, but I might like someone else. please help?
I have been with my bf for over 2 years. I love him, but he isnt the best bf. He is very selfish and can be rude to me sometimes. Some of the things he does are gross or disrespectful. He is a very nice person and would never hurt me, but I feel like all of the crap I have had to put up with has left me hoping for someone else. I have even started dreaming of a real loving relationship. My bf knows all of this and has tried to do better many times, but then would eventually resort back to his old habits. He has recently started to do better, but it might be too late I think I dont feel as in love with him as I used to be. A year ago we got engaged I was 19 and he was 20. I was so in love, but I broke it off because of the above reasons. We still stayed together though. Two days ago I was at his house and he invited his friend and his best friends brother to go in the hot tub with us. The brother jason was this amazing guy. they spent the night and jason ended up hanging out with me and my bf for most of the day. I couldnt help liking this guy. I was so excited to see my bf that this guy caught me completely by surprise. He is perfect. I have been having actual dreams about being with a more loving bf and it was like this guy was the person I have been dreaming of. It freaked me out big time. I told my bf later that night about my feelings for jason and he wasnt upset bc he knew he has been neglecting me. I am so confused inside my head is going to explode. My bf called jason to talk to him bc i said I would completely forget about the feelings if jason hadnt felt any of the same things. Jason said he knew something was up with me, and that he would like this date me bc he thinks im a good person, but he woiuld never try to date me unless he had my bf’s permission. this is if me and my bf broke up. So now i am even more confused than ever. My bf knows i love him and i cant imagine not being with him. I feel my heart would completely break if we were not together, but i cant forget about everything i have gone through with him. There will always be jason and what if in the back of my head. My bf knows all of this and he is determined to be better bc he knows he wants to be with me forever, but i am just so confused. I cant help but to think of jason and how well he treated me. its not even so much about jason I have felt like this towards my bf for a long time and he knows it, but i just cant bring myself to leave bc i love him so much. please help i have no idea what to do.
Usedhottubsstore answers:
Sounds tough. Stay strong for a few more months, if your boyfriend gets better, and give him another chance, I think if he puts his mind to it, he can change, and you’ll fall in love with him.
If he doesn’t change, and it gets worse, you two should take a break from eachother, and if you liked life without him better than with, then just breakup, and maybe then you can go for his brother.
Maria asks…
Food Coursework Questionnaire need to be answered please!?
Hi I need this questionnaire to be answered for my A2 food coursewrok finding out about luxury desserts what the consumer really wants.It would help me a great deal if you could answer evry question giving me an honest answer! Thankyou very much! xxx
Do You Buy Ready Made Desserts?
Yes
No
How often do you buy them ?
Several Times A Week
Once A Week
Once A Month
Several Times A Year
Never
How much would you be willing to pay for a readymade dessert for two?
£0-£1
£1.01-£2
£2.01-£3
£3.01-£4
£4.01+
Which Do You Prefer
Hot Desserts
Cold Desserts
What is your favorite type of pudding
Fruity
Chocolaty
Creamy
Other [ ]
What is your favorite type of pastry
Rough puff/ flaky
Choux
Short crust
Who are you most likely to share a luxury dessert with?
Boyfriend/Girlfriend
Friend
Family member
What type of cream do you prefer?
Single
Double
Whipped
Clotted
Crème fraiche
Which exotic fruit do you prefer?
Mango
Pineapple
Passion fruit
Kiwi
9.If you have friends over for dinner do you…?
Prepare and cook all of it yourself
Buy everything in readymade
Some of both
10.What brand of dessert do you prefer to buy?
Supermarket’s own Value
Supermarket’s own Regular
Supermarket’s own Luxury
Non Supermarket’ Brand
11. What packaging do you prefer?
Box With Window
Plain Box
Tub
Packet
Foil Tray In Box
Plastic Tray in box
12.What packaging design do you like best?
Bright, Colourful
Simplistic but effective
Any with picture
13.Which is most important?
It’s Healthy
It’s Tastes Good
14.Which chocolate do you prefer?
Milk
White
Dark
15.Which portion size do you buy most?
One Person
Two Person
Family Sized
Usedhottubsstore answers:
1. Yes
2. Once a week
3. 4.01+
4. Cold desserts
5. Chocolatey
6. Rough puff/flaky
7. Family member
8. Whipped
9. Mango
9. Some of both
10. Non supermarket brand
11. Box with bow
12. Simplistic
13. Tastes good
14. Milk
15. Two person
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